Ah, anger. The emotion that can start out as annoyance and soon escalate into adreline-pumping, hair-rending, pillow-smashing action.

It's been said that for every minute you are angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness.

Which of course is incredibly profound but probably not incredibly useful if you simply want to pound something out of sheer fury.

Anger can be good. It can spur you out of complacency...it can cause you to attempt challenges you never would have even considered if the thing that angered you never occured.

I remember back in the early 90s, I was working in a group where the teamwork message of the day was could be summed up in three itty bitty words - "Dysfunctional is dynamic!" Wheee! I experienced more corporate politics there than mosquitos breed in stagnant ponds. Anyways, one day a colleague in a lead position said something incredibly stupid about our computer network (more to the point, he was trying to discredit the application I needed to complete my assignments. It was tantamount to telling a builder, you can't carry your own hammer to work on your own house because it would make the company tooltruck 7 miles away too heavy to drive).

Fury, thy name was Ling. And this particular Ling decided to poke around the computer network as a whole, and uncovered security holes so gaping, it could swallow the Titanic and beg for more. End result? Incompetent colleague eventually left, and I rose in the ranks of my profession. This never would have happened if I wasn't so angry I'd have imploded on the the spot.

The emotion itself can be good, but , it's the way it gets *expressed* that can be the kiss of death for your relationships.

When you're angry, you're often blinded as to how you are coming across. If you're mad at your cherished partner, you probably do NOT want to flay him or her alive and preen about your witty way with words (as said cherished partner is crushed before your eyes). Yet, how often does the above occur...words are said in the heat of the moment that once issued forth, can never be recalled.

The Inner Personal Edge delves deeply into how one can generate positive responses to own's anger. It's all dependent upon the way you come across. What's the problem you're trying to solve? Your anger has now spurred the confrontation....now, how do you ensure you get what you want while increasing the love and commitment that exists within your relationships?

It is something to think about.

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