What the heck is healthy domination?

High-quality relationships are always a work in progress. Some days will see you as the stronger party emotionally, other days will see your significant other in that role.

What causes this? Lots of things, I think...but the main factor that's the most important is the one you cannot control. I'm speaking, of course, of what else happened during the day that affected your moods.

Think about it. Let's say that one day, you experienced the joys of being backstabbed by a previously trusted colleague (if you work onsite), or perhaps you were called to the school to explain why your darling angel tried re-enacting Harry Potter flying on a broomstick. And that event turned out to be the highlight of a simply hideous day.

When you get home, you probably want to let your guard down. One thing you probably don't want is your significant other asking for your input regarding trivial matters. If something needs to be done, you probably simply hope it gets done without requiring your interaction every step of the way.

These are the few hours when it's good for your partner to dominate the relationship. Letting you rest and recuperate, while at the same time making sure what needs to get done is effectively accomplished, can be a very benefical gift.

Can you yourself be this sensitive to your partner's needs?

My mom always told me when growing up that I needed to work in the corporate world for at least two years. Why? So I'd understand inherently what my husband went through if he comes home chewed up by the choking politics that fester within any organization (this was back when I was planning on being a SAH mom).

When you internalize the Inner Personal Edge, you'll be able to proactively combat the feelings of despair and negativity that outside influences might smash into your relationship. Being sensitive to your partner's needs can really enhance the quality of your life together.

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