What the heck is positive submission? And why can it be a great resource to help you obtain The Inner Personal Edge?

Positive submission is merely choosing your battles wisely. Let's say that your partner has an insane desire to rewire the living room. Or join the Parent/Teachers Association with your input. Or invite your parents-in-law over for the holiday meal, even though you *know* such an event always ends up with you hearing time and time again how much better your spouse's life would be if you weren't in it.

In other words, your partner wants to do something that you think a rabid bunny rabbit with a toothache wouldn't do anytime in the near future.

Weigh your options. What will it *really* cost, in the long run, if you submit to their desires? Will it unrepairably destroy your ego? Will it cause your family to enter the poorhouse? Will it have such ramification that you will lose yourself as a human being?

Well? Will it?

When you have The Inner Personal Edge, you will not fear to submit in issues that are important to your partner but only 'eh!' to you. You will not worry about "winning" or "losing" in an argument, because you'll see the long-term goals of peace and harmony as much more important.

This doesn't mean you submit to your partner in everything, not by a long shot! But it does mean that you choose your battles wisely. You value your partners' feelings more than your own ego.

My husband is great at doing this for me. Every now and then, I'll get into major book-writing mode, and insist on working in the wee hours of the morning (when most mates are asleep next to their partners). But he knows how important this is to me, and gracefully yields to my needs. Other times, I will be consumed with needing to take care of him, and here too, he lets me have my way.

Sometimes you will want to be the dominate person in your relationships...and sometimes you will see the value of letting your cherished partner have their way. A truly dynamic relatonship always is growing and evolving...you want to ensure you meet the needs as much as possible.

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