Long long ago, back when I was in college, I read the following marvelous poem by a "J.T.":

Life is a four letter word........ I think you spell it L-O-V-E

It's really as simple as that......

No, I don't really think that I can totally describe love but I do know some things about it.

Seems to me that in order to be in love, you have to be able to be weak. Sure, certain aspects of love take a real strength. But, it is true that in order to experience love at its best, you have to be able to be weak, vulnerable and accept the possibility that you might get hurt. If you are too tough to let yourself be so open for attack, then I am afraid you can never feel love to its fullest.

Is it worth it to take such a risk. I don't know the answer to that....but I do know that even though I have gotten hurt occasionally, I would do it all over again. The Joys were more memorable than the pain.

Actually, most of the times that I ended up hurt were not because I left myself vulnerable, but rather that my stupidity tricked me into arming myself against "the one I loved", so that she couldn't hurt me. Once I let myself take the defensive, I usually ended up causing more problems than I solved.

What should a person do: Should a person be tougher and more protective of themselves even though they take away from the full effect of love....Or should you be more vulnerable and weak and open to possible attack....

I am WEAK! Not because I choose to be this way....but rather because in all honesty, I know no other way.

I am weak....I sometimes get hurt....but I have felt love....

Even now, almost 20 years later, I find the above rather awesome in its simplicity and truth. Think about it...how many times have you been seized by a desire to open your heart to your mate or a friend or a family member...only to choke it back at the last minute so you could avoid any chance of being hurt?

Choose wisely when you give of yourself. If you value your insights and passions as the precious gifts they really are, you will probably minimize your vulnerability because you'll only reveal them to people who have earned your trust.

The Inner Personal Edge will reveal to you more ways of turning personal weaknesses into strengths. It will also walk you through ways of uncovering resources online that specifically aimed at individual weakness issues such as addictions, personality problems and more.

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