Self-esteem is more important than true love. For without self-esteem, you will never value yourself enough to choose and keep the person right for you.

Developing a case of healthy self-esteem is a learning journey all of its own! After all, what's so special about you? And once you have found it out *and* internalized it, can you feel good enough about yourself to say, my gosh, I'm terrific and worth knowing?

That's self-esteem. Or at least one aspect of it.

I remember participating in a forum for recruiters a few years ago. Widely hailed as one of the best trainers in that particular industry, I always give away free information and offer ideas and help whenever possible. It helps me build up my potential client list.

This particular forum had several rather bitter individuals who chose to attack my postings. We've all seen this in real life - someone helps out, and someone else tries to make themselves feel important by trying to tear down the other. So I decided to stop my paticipation.

I still read the postings, mind you. And eventually people noticed I wasn't visible in the group. One of the complainers wrote, well, if Ling couldn't take the heat, she probably wasn't that knowledgable to begin with (this despite me having traveled around the country giving seminars on the subject).

Nope, that wasn't the case at all. I had enough self-esteem and self-value that I simply saw no *need* to defend myself. If my participation wasn't valued, then the forum just didn't deserve my input. Period, end of story.

That's also self-esteem. When you feel great about yourself, you do not have the need to endure insults and injuries, just to prove your point...you don't need people like that anyway. You can let them go.

Self-esteem helps give you the confidence of your own, personal convictions. It goes lightyears towards providing a stable self-confidence that will aid you, years to come.

In The Inner Personal Edge, you'll discover how to uncover all those aspects about yourself that are worthy of esteem. We all have them, you know....it's just that sometimes we're conditioned not to value or acknowledge them.

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